I can't believe we are beginning 2015! I was thinking about how we often get caught up in hurt and worry over life's issues that are out of our control, or are simple mistakes. When my children complain about other people in their life that have caused conflict, I tell them that those are the people in most need of our prayers, or positive thoughts. So often we cannot understand the motivation of others, or even ourselves, when we act in an unkind way. Have you considered that awesome concept by children of a 'do-over'? This then needs to be followed with 'letting go'. We can do it, nothing is stopping us (except for pride, or any other human emotion that applies). Here's an example:
I had a stress-filled day not too long ago. It was full of that Christmas time stress...shopping, parking in a full lot, couldn't find the gift I was searching for, etc... Later that day, I found myself delivering that stress to my children as we prepped for dinner. The kids were unsure, and began to 'walk on eggshells' around me as we got the house cleaned and dinner ready. After a pause, I realized that my stress is not their problem. I told the girls that I simply needed a 'do-over'. I explained that my day was difficult, and it was not their fault.
This then, needs to be accepted, and letting go has to start immediately. Sometimes the idea of letting go of anger or irritability takes longer. As adults, we can model it for the kids, so that they learn from it. It's ok to have difficult exchanges with loved ones, but it is critically important to share with them a fresh start...immediately. If you hold grudges and carry lingering anger, your children will learn to do this as well.
Do-Over and Letting Go can be useful in many, if not all situations. From little problems, to those quite large...ask for a do-over, and then let it go.
It's a new year, start fresh. Enjoy something everyday. Model kindness for your family. Enjoy this video of 2 sweet girls...letting go.
Keep It Simple...and do anything you need to, over. ♥D