tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44680500007777107832024-03-13T20:13:05.928-07:00Pancakes For ParentsBlarticle Posts...BLOG + ARTICLES
by Dena Albergo Jayson
visit my website at www.denaalbergojayson.comAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-68662443210858233442017-10-15T11:33:00.001-07:002017-10-15T11:33:12.545-07:00Dear Siri & Alexa & Cortana & Google Now,<br />
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I have a request. Stop answering the questions and start asking them. Please. When our kids ask, "Siri, what is 10 x 8?" I think it would be amazing if you said, "what do you think it is?" or "how can you figure that out?" We have teachers who spend 7 hours a day working with children on concepts in a classroom-<i>concepts that require the brain to engage</i>-and children are having some difficulties engaging. I can see, and understand, the thoughts of the child as they realize that when they go home a virtual assistant will probably spit the answer right out for them within a matter of seconds. But what if that assistant actually required them to think? That's an almost absurd idea. It shouldn't be.<br />
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We need thinkers and inventors and creators. "Alexa, why was the Civil Rights Movement so necessary and important?" Imagine if Alexa responded with " Here's some information (at your reading level), read it and I bet you will know why it was so important for our nation. You think about it." <br />
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Let's start while they are young. Parents - let your children have a voice and choice. Let them think. We need thinkers. Engaged brains in activities and in the community. I've attached an article about college graduates and thinking. It's short, just like this post. Read it, and think about it! <br />
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~Dena<br />
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<a href="https://www.jamesgmartin.center/2017/03/college-graduates-still-cant-think/">https://www.jamesgmartin.center/2017/03/college-graduates-still-cant-think/</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-51974497932269930322017-07-24T02:44:00.002-07:002017-07-24T09:36:16.844-07:00My Mom Didn't Just Feed Me Sometimes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<b>My Mom Didn't Just Feed Me Sometimes...</b></h2>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">This photo has come across my social media screens multiple times over the past few days. I initially thought it was funny, and of course, reflective of not only 2017 but the past decade of child raising. It's way too much! I think back to my first pregnancy and I tried so hard to have a 'perfect' pregnancy. I gave up caffeine - and soda is my addiction. I completely stopped the pop. I ended up on complete bed rest at 24 weeks, and my son was born at 33 weeks and had to remain in the hospital for about 7 more weeks. I remember thinking that I probably didn't need Dr. Ob-Gyn, what my son needed was Dr. Pepper. Babies 2 and 3 enjoyed a few sips of Dr. Pepper along their in utero journey. As the years went on, I watched pregnant women cease to eat a growing number of foods, and all I could think of was - <i>thank goodness my babies are out.</i> This eating ban would stress me out.</span><br />
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So I read this post from a college orientation and I think, no - <b>nope </b>- my mother did not just feed me. As I did not just feed my children. Here's just a small list of things that I believe she did, and taught me to do with my own children, and they are by no means easy:<br />
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<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">She told me no, when I really, really, really needed <i>just one thing.</i> Just one. Because I didn't really, really, really need it. She knew that.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">She made me earn my own money for ridiculously expensive items. For example, every year she would buy me the required school clothes, but when I <i>had to have</i> the sweet Jordache Jeans with the yellow stitching of the horse on my back pocket, I had to earn the money to pay for those. She seemed to feel that the Wranglers from Kmart were probably good enough. Actually, I think that was my dad who believed that.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Speaking of him, she made me tell him when I made a small slip in judgment with my behavior. She didn't cover for me and this was probably one of the worst consequences in all of the land. I'm sure they had a great laugh after I left the room. Or at least patted themselves on the back for a job well done.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">She worked. My dad worked. We ate fast food. It often was Burger Chef. Do you remember that chain? I ate dinner every night (we didn't check the GMO's and all that is mentioned now). My cholesterol is just fine and I'm 40 something. However, she taught me to go to work everyday and earn the money you need to provide for your family. I can't really cook, but I can read a recipe book and use it if I want to. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Speaking of food...I didn't like to eat breakfast but she made me eat something. Many times I'd eat a lunch food item. I hated breakfast. I remember getting sick at school one morning and they asked what I had for breakfast. I had to tell them vegetable soup. I'm sure she didn't feel great picking me up that day with those who judge for not making me eat cereal, but this was how she got me to eat in the morning.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">There were rules, consequences, and follow-through. I think this is hard.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Finally, school - as an educator I have a hunch there were many times my mother was upset with the school or a teacher. Guess what? I didn't really know about it (well, I did <i>one</i> time). She didn't jump to my defense instantly, especially in front of me. No conversations with or about any teachers happened in front of me. If I was upset, she listened, but didn't assume naturally that I was always right. She just took care of things with grace and respect (or advised me about how I needed to handle it) and thankfully did not publicly post on social media about my teachers.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I said 'finally' above. There's no finally. She's still my mom and now a grandma too. It's never done, and it's never as simple as <i>feeding us sometimes</i>. I know the author in the picture absolutely meant that tongue in cheek, and with sarcasm. However, as long as there's no outright neglect and abuse, let everyone parent as they choose and as their lifestyle and economic situation allows them parent. Don't judge. I drank soda, and bottle fed my kids (I know, I said bottle fed, take a moment). They are alive and well today (see below). And I think they are fantastic!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I know it's been a while...thanks for sticking around!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">~Dena</span><br />
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<tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmZU1b_w2GszNwkDMxW82MENuM0Yb1s69_polT19s3kP2bd3aruAtqwBwtyn5lhH0YL7sy4TsXyYSAvHn8eR_W1h2hrFLmpDfibkD9IHS4j9U6vUsDprQKqTErdnwlpFZStzPW6lY20bE/s1600/th.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" height="118" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmZU1b_w2GszNwkDMxW82MENuM0Yb1s69_polT19s3kP2bd3aruAtqwBwtyn5lhH0YL7sy4TsXyYSAvHn8eR_W1h2hrFLmpDfibkD9IHS4j9U6vUsDprQKqTErdnwlpFZStzPW6lY20bE/s200/th.jpeg" width="200" /></a></td></tr>
<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b><span style="color: red;">No more 'live' violence, please.</span></b></span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">I’m just finishing up a wonderful 2
week period of holiday, home, and memory making with my loved ones. Those two
precious weeks given us closure to one year, and a beginning to a new one. This
often calls for a period of reflection on the past, and goal setting for the
year to come.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I honestly spent a good
amount of time doing some research on the internet, and in between, a little of
catching up with friends via social media. This is where my world as an
educator began to shift and fill with angst for the future.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">I was overwhelmed with videos
-horrifying videos- of children of all ages and stages doing very cruel and
unkind acts to one another <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">live</i>. I
dislike this new live trend on social media. What followed were unfeeling and
apathetic comments from strangers. The content of the video(s) should have made
anyone, if not everyone, simply want to jump in to rescue the ‘victim’. The
comments were coming from people of all races and ages. Did I mention that
these videos coming across my social media sites were unsolicited? I did not
search for them. I did not have to click on them to view them. They were there,
running for me to view. Many times sponsored by the news media. This is not news.
You don’t have to be in education to be worried. As a human being, I am
worried. Where do we stand in the academic world with this new media? Let’s
take a look.</span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;"></span></i></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;"></span></i></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Preschool – In the Lead</span></i></b>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">I have consulted with many groups, both
locally and nationally with regard to social emotional learning practices for
young <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span>children
who have endured trauma. Research <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span>continues to support a
positive correlation between SEL program integration and</span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;"> academic progress (CASEL, 2015).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">All
fifty states have SEL curriculum programs in place at the preschool level.</i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, preschoolers are not the ones
producing or posting these harmful videos, thankfully. We can say with
confidence that talking about social skills, and emotional learning at an early
age produces results. The neuroscience of a preschooler demonstrates that 3-5
year olds are emotionally impressionable in part due to the brain’s grey matter
which is quite fluid and dynamic, and rapidly developing. Dare I say, this is
possibly a more difficult time for our children than the teenage years? It’s
also one of the most important stages with regard to creating a kind and
sensitive human being.</span>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">K-2 – It’s Not Too Late!</span></i></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Effective SEL curriculum programs
include lessons in all five areas: self-awareness, self-management, responsible
decision-making, social awareness, and relationship skills. It’s in the areas
of social awareness that we must make greater efforts and strides with the
work.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;"></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;"></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">We need to talk about, teach, model, and
integrate <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">regularly</i></b> at an early age very basic human kindness, acceptance,
and sensitivity toward one another. The state of Kansas has a well-defined SEL
curriculum that uses the language <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">respect
for human dignity</i> in its social awareness component. I love that language -
human dignity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In addition, Kansas
included a standard to help students recognize and read others’ expressions. We
know that with an increase in spectrum disorders, as well as screen time, our
students have a more limited ability to recognize and interpret the feelings of
others. We need to assist them with those skills.</span>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">There is a plethora of research available by
K.H. Lagattuta regarding the developing brain of 2-7 year olds and
understanding emotion. In that rather current research (as recent as 2012), she
concluded that by age 7, most children have an understanding of empathy for
others. By this age of learning, we should have a well-established curriculum
that is as intense and thorough as reading and mathematics. </span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">A Hope-Filled Future</span></i></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Millennials, the term used for our
current group of parents raising our next generation of children have unique
value systems as a whole, according to a recent study (<a href="http://www.themillennialimpact.com/">www.themillennialimpact.com</a> )
conducted by Achieve Guidance and The Case Foundation. Though often criticized
for being a generation centered on self and with wavering interests, research
has determined these young adults are generous and less materialistic than
their predecessors. They will give little, but will give what they have to
benefit others. Various studies have shown that, in general, the majority of
millennial parents would prefer the following for their children:</span></div>
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<ul>
<li><span style="font-family: "wingdings"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">A choice in education
(online, charter, public, private, parochial, etc.) that is affordable – if not
free.</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "wingdings"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Diverse and engaging
learning experiences.</span><span style="font-family: "wingdings"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "wingdings"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">An updated view from
all of ‘family’ (eliminate the former model of nuclear family).</span></li>
<li><span style="font-family: "wingdings"; font-size: 12.0pt;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Less emphasis on
standardization and more emphasis and a child’s unique learning capabilities
and individuality.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">We can see the true educational cycle
of educating the whole child will return. This includes the social, emotional
child. If a giving nature and accepting spirit is alive in the home, and the
educational process can regularly bring forth tolerance lessons that include
empathy and sensitivity, I see a future free from harm, bullying, and
peer-to-peer related trauma. </span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Just Do It</span></i></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma" , sans-serif; font-size: 12.0pt;">Basic human kindness and sensitivity needs to
return to our classrooms, lived daily, and modeled always – most importantly by
the media. It is <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">not</i></b> ok to post vulgar attacks on one another live. Why does the
news media repeatedly promote these videos? Information is necessary, sharing
the violence post trauma is not. Tell us about the video, and we will then find
ways to teach, act, and model better behavior. We have the ability to change
this. We have to change this. We must make education a safe, sensitive learning
space free from fear and any trauma to our students.</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-49204868106954073692015-10-18T06:07:00.001-07:002015-10-18T06:07:52.561-07:00PTS - Parent/Teacher/Student or Post-Traumatic Stress???<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I find as a school administrator that there's increasing stress with regard to the relationship among the 3 communities directly involved in a child's education. In general, our goal is to educate children within the boundaries of a school day academically, socially, physically, emotionally, and I'd add technologically. Many schools are also charged with spiritual development. It is an incredible task to complete. It's also one that can be accomplished with a cooperative working relationship among the parent(s), teacher, and student. There are set standards, common practices, and all must work together to design and achieve developmentally appropriate goals. Let's take a look at how those standards, practices, goals, and communication among them may (or may not) work within your setting:</span><br />
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Student<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Parent<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Standards
– the content of the educational program<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Does not have
input to the standards, but should aware of them. It is what they are
learning each day, every year.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Should be aware of
them. Can have input at various levels by being actively involved in school
boards and by voting for local representatives.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Is absolutely
aware of them as the curriculum is designed around these. Should be teaching the standards and
setting annual goals based on them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Goals/Objectives-these
are more specific to each student/grade level<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">In general, these
are the same for each class, but may vary per student based on unique
capabilities. A student can be
somewhat aware of them but will consider his/her main goal to be to ‘get to
the next grade’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Will also have a
similar goal in mind as the student but should also have more specific goals
for his/her student based on the student’s individual needs that also align
with the standards.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Will have the
standards in mind and will fit the student’s needs in and align
goals/objectives into this framework preparing the student for the next grade
throughout the year.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Methods
of Instruction – these are the ways the teacher will deliver the lessons
throughout the school year. Often these are determined by a teacher's strengths/desires and district resources.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Depending on the
age, the student may or may not know what method of instruction works best
for any subject. Is it rote memorization,
kinesthetic or auditory learning? Are
all things visual/graphic best received and understood?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Parents, as well,
may or may not know what works for their child. Often they assume what worked for them
should work for their child. This is
why there is so much push back on the Common Core. C.C. is like a foreign language for many parents.
However, it does work for some students. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Teachers have the
task to get to know and understand an entire classroom of students and balance
all lessons and methods of instruction for all students. The optimal
classroom will have engaging lessons that balance visual, kinesthetic, and
auditory learning experiences-that meet the standards presented in the curriculum.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Communication
– this is what <span style="color: red;">SHOULD</span> happen<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Every child must
feel safe communicating to his/her teacher about school and home. Every child must feel safe communicating to
his/her parent about school. All
communication must be respectful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Every parent must
support the school and teacher in front of the child, even when it’s
difficult. Ask questions. Make notes.
Refrain from verbally ‘attacking’ anyone in the presence of your child. Do not speak poorly of other children,
parents, or school staff. Request a meeting. All communication must be
respectful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Maiandra GD",sans-serif;">Teachers must keep
parents informed. Technology allows for easy frequent communication. Students must feel safe in the
classroom. They need to be able to ask
questions free from humiliation and embarrassment. All communication must be
respectful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I create this table just to begin to set up a discussion of the increased stress among parents, teachers, and students. This was once a primarily cooperative, working relationship (I believe many, many years ago). Research shows that it works much better when the relationship is cooperative. How do we get back to where we used to be? All areas need improvement - the standards (and how we get them), goal setting, methodology, and teaching. However, next week, I'll talk about the communication piece. That said, we DO have some wonderful things happening in education! Share them with us! I'm going to share one with you below...</span><div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Until next week, keep it simple...and respectful. ♥D</span></div>
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This week, a Detroit area judge released from detention three children who refused to have a court ordered lunch with their father who was in town from another country. The children are ages 14, 10, and 9. Their parents have been in a 5+ year family court battle for custody and visitation, and have had well over 400 court filings. Mom says dad was abusive, dad says she is brainwashing the kids. Both parents are highly successful in their professional life. Both parents, in my opinion, are failing at an alarming rate, as parents.<br />
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I am not in that home, and never have been so I cannot judge the validity of the abuse or brainwashing statements. However, I can say that when the court has to resort to detaining the children for several weeks for violating a court order (not having the lunch with dad), the 'village' that is raising the children has failed. The parents have failed. Any extended family and friends have failed. The school system has failed. The attorneys have failed. The judge and court system has failed. All of these players in the chess game of divorce could have made moves to benefit the kids, but did not. Kids are not pawns. <br />
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Below is a link to a counseling and mediation center's page for the 10 Commandments for Parents experiencing divorce. Many of them may be a challenge, but they can help to insure that your children come out of a divorce unscathed.<br />
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The mother was interviewed by local media and stated, "I told the courts that love brings love". If the children are detained again because of parental lack of concession with the court orders, I'd like to offer a final move in the chess game: <br />
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Check Mate: we find the children another loving home without turmoil and game play from any parents.<br />
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We have to protect our children from everything we can. For the media's version of the events, see the video below.<br />
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Keep it simple...very simple. ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-26251217975203797912015-06-07T05:44:00.002-07:002015-06-07T05:52:04.360-07:00The Gap - The Reason Parents May Be Talking About LGBTQ Way More Than Ever<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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We all know that parenting does not come with a handbook. Growing up, I was exposed to about 6 network television channels, the remote control was introduced at some point, and I loved to watch The Brady Bunch, Happy Days, Laverne & Shirley, and Knots Landing (that was my most PG-13 rated show). I don't believe my parents had to tackle really explaining other family lifestyle choices to me...we simply don't have any family members living in situations that vary from heterosexual ones. If you are a parent who was raised in the 60's, 70's. and 80's, think back to your exposure to lifestyles that are not heterosexual families. I bet for the majority it was limited, and not much discussed at family dinners.<br />
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Flash forward to today. Imagine being a child, or a teenager who has access to 500 television channels - a few of which are dedicated to LGBTQ lifestyles. Magazines with covers that are devoted to trending topics, along with #CaitlynJenner (just to name one hashtag) surfacing everywhere lately. Look at this site below that offers a pop culture timeline, and this is just lists homosexuals in the media. You'll notice a major increase in the 2000's. Kids are very much exposed to differing lifestyles, and many readily accept them.<br />
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Whatever your feelings are on lifestyles, I'll say this again, <b>your children are very much exposed to them</b>, and the world is encouraging an openness and acceptance. This may be a different opinion from yours. Your child may be open and accepting. Is it okay for you to differ in your opinions? It is. Think back to a time when you were young. Did you agree with your parents on everything? Really think about it. Evolution, education, and maturity allow humans to move on with differences <i><b>and</b></i> love. Educate yourself on the lifestyles. Know that they are rooted in love, and not 'choice'. Watch Caitlyn Jenner's story with an open mind to try to understand what goes through a person's mind and body during his or her lifetime. Do you have to agree with it? Nope. But it may help you understand why your child is using empathetic skills in today's world. It may also help prepare you if your child approaches you and has to tell you about the lifestyle he or she is living.<br />
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I've included below an interesting round-table about today's youth and the generation gap. I think you'll enjoy it. <br />
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Keep it simple...and be ready to listen and talk to your children. ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-42814217939014518872015-05-24T09:34:00.000-07:002015-05-24T09:34:03.382-07:00The Four (& Five) Letter Words I Now Have A Love (& Hate) Relationship With<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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WORK. SERVE. TIME. MONEY. MORE. HELP. FREE. NEED. WANT. HARD. WORK (yes, I listed this one again). EASY. PLEASE. GIVE. GOV'T (I abbreviated that one). My list could go on. I'm sitting here on this Memorial Day holiday weekend remembering a very dear friend who lost his life in Fallujah almost 9 years ago, serving in the Marine reserves. He made the ultimate sacrifice serving his country, as many, many have so that we can live here, in the U.S. in a free democratic state. God Bless him, and all of those who have served and are serving. <br />
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I'll get wrapped up in situation with 'whomever'...complaining that WORK is too HARD. I wish it was EASY! Or maybe someone is in NEED of HELP with whatever situation he/she is dealing with. There is never enough MONEY to get what they NEED. Or maybe, just maybe if they had a little MORE of it, they would be all set. Why can it just be FREE? In addition, there is never quite enough TIME to SERVE those who, again, NEED it. PLEASE, somebody, step in and help out! I even catch myself making these statements...if only, if only...<br />
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And then, this weekend rolls around, and thank goodness for it, to remind and help me reflect on the TIME, WORK, & HELP given to me by so many before me. It wasn't EASY or FREE. Thank you for serving. Thanks to the families of our soldiers for the sacrifice you endure. I am a lucky American. I am a grateful American.<br />
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I love those words listed above. I think I kind of hate them too. We take them for granted, and use them too easily. Teach children to WORK and SERVE. Teach them the difference between WANT and NEED. Show them the true value of MONEY by having them earn their own, even if you have plenty. Finally, make sure they understand what it means to be FREE.<br />
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Happy Memorial Day!<br />
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Below is a short video tribute to my friend...<br />
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Keep it simple...and be forever grateful for freedom. ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-75539611718567633162015-05-10T06:15:00.000-07:002015-05-10T06:15:40.249-07:00Never Put Anything In Writing...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Happy Mother's Day! As I sip my coffee on this Sunday morning, I read many social media posts from others paying homage to mom. I was thinking back to a somewhat vivid memories I have from back in 7th or 8th grade. We didn't have text messaging or any other form of electronic communication...we had that reliable system of 'note passing'. It was a pretty reliable source of information. And, the one that repeatedly got me in the most trouble.<br />
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Mom's really almost know everything they need to about their children. They listen to conversations (some of the best come when you're driving them around-especially with friends), pay attention to your whereabouts, and they READ. For me in junior high, it was amazingly cool to wear Jordache jeans with spectacular stitching on the pockets and those pockets provided a place for my notes from friends to live. But they had to be washed. How many of you have family members that actually clean out their pockets prior to giving you the wash? Oh, the many times I sent my notes to the laundry room. I was handing my mom a gift into my private, personal life as a 7th grader. Many conversations came out of the wash. Many smart pieces of advice came (it may have been with or without a consequence of grounding). The one piece of advice I have carried with me since that day...<br />
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Oh boy, is this helpful today! With copy/paste, Tweet/ReTweet, forward, and share...we're doomed if we put a regrettable statement in writing. I received many pieces of great advice (and still do) from my mother but this was has stayed with me to pass on to my children today. What wonderful gifts have you received from your mom?<br />
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Here's a sweet video that celebrates moms. There are many forms of motherhood...you know how you fit into this role. Thank you. Happy Mother's Day!<br />
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Keep It Simple...and relax today! ♥D<br />
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You can't stop the inevitable. Especially at this time of year. Prom season. Grad parties. Pool parties. Bonfires. Your teenager will undoubtedly be invited to these and will be begging to go. They have been waiting for summer freedom to arrive.</div>
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Red Solo Cup... this is your favorite time of year too! As parents, we are terrified of any photo with our children holding you close in hand. But they may be put there. Twittered. Snapchatted. Instagrammed. You may think that ignorance is truly bliss. But when it comes to your teen drinking, knowledge is life saving.</div>
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Look at this Buzzfeed article and the images other countries have of American parties...</div>
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So how can we realistically help our kids? I truly believe we have to offer our kids <b>FASES</b> (FAce Saving Exit Strategies). I will offer these often, for every age and many situations. We all want to get out of challenging situation with grace, especially teenagers. Here are my thoughts:</div>
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<li>Have them say, NO-I don't drink. However, think back, how often did YOU do this? Were you successful?</li>
<li>Have them offer a medical excuse, "I'm taking medicine for an illness right now and cannot have alcohol". Nope, it is not ok to lie...but if they find they are not strong enough to just say no, allow this one.</li>
<li>Tell them to fill up the cup, but DO NOT DRINK from it. Pour it out slowly. Dump it in the sink. Pretend to drink, and then just don't! Go to the bathroom and rid of the drink. However, if a party is broken up with law enforcement, it is never a good idea to have the cup in hand anyway.</li>
<li>Have them exit the situation. Call you. Text you. Make it ok for them to get a hold of you for a rescue and then blame you for the exit. It's ok for you to be the bad guy, if they stay safe, and remain in good standing with their peer group.</li>
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Finally, if you've got a little song in your head...here you go (and this is Glee's version because this is what our kids are watching). Keep it simple...everyday! ♥D<br />
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We need them back. Filters, that is. Language filters. There's an increase in what we, as adults, choose to say in front of our children. We need to remember that they are children. Their brains are developing, and they cannot process emotions and feelings at a mature rate. They do not understand that we sometimes have to behave one way, even though we may have contradictory feelings at the time. They do not understand the importance of time and its healing powers. Children haven't lived long enough to understand any of this. Today, I plead with readers...put your filter back on when having conversations with or around your children. Stop yourself. I'll give you some examples...<br />
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<b>Regarding Teachers/Coaches/Volunteer Leaders - </b>You will, if you have not yet, have an issue with one or more of your child's teachers/coaches. While it used to be the norm to speak with your child, and then the teacher/school, <b style="font-style: italic;">prior to having an emotional reaction...</b>I find that more and more parents have an that reaction in front of their children without speaking to the teacher first. It's often not in favor of the teacher. Please do not make disparaging comments/assumptions out loud in front of your child. If you have middle school aged children, you know about the challenging moments that come while raising them. It's natural for their age. Can you imagine being a teacher, trying to educate your child, who has a lack of respect for him/her for more than just those moments? Sometimes they carry this disrespect throughout the course. This can be due to something that occurred in parent conversations, overheard by your children (and yes, I recognize it can also be due to the teacher, I know we do not always have the most respectful educators). Filtered conversations regarding school and it's teachers can make a significant and positive impact on your child's school year. This also applies to coaches and volunteer leaders for groups your child may be affiliated with.<br />
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<b>Regarding Family Life -</b> Even more important, and possibly more challenging is preventing eruptions and emotional confrontations between parents in front of the children. I've included a YouTube video below (it's short!) regarding the impact on children. We are here to protect our children. Allowing them in to the issues of marital breakdown is harmful. No parent would throw their child into a burning building...do not throw them into the middle of broken marriage. Save your discussions for private. Get a babysitter. Send them to grandmas. Whatever it takes. I have admired many parents who can do this. It can be done with peace and grace. The kids come out alright, and with two loving parents sharing time with them.<br />
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<b>Regarding Language In General</b> - If you don't want them to say it, don't say it in front of them. I think that one is self explanatory. Children learn what they live.<br />
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Filtering may come naturally, or it may be a complete challenge. Take the challenge. It will be worth it. We will see an increase in overall respect. You are modeling relationships. Again, it will be worth it.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-22844854759350323232015-03-10T21:17:00.003-07:002015-03-10T21:17:59.749-07:00Great News About the Common Core! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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There is so much negative media about the Common Core, I thought it would be nice to shed some light on what I view as a real strength to these benchmarks, especially during reading month. There's a shift in required reading across all grade levels to what is referred to as informational text. What is it? Informational or expository texts main purpose is to inform or instruct the reader in some way. There is often specialized vocabulary, and many times diagrams or charts, photos or illustrations that aide in the delivery of the information.<br />
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Why is this a 'good thing'? The reading materials associated with informational texts are providing real and true information. There's a shift to reading based on interest. We know that if our children (or students) are interested in a topic, then they will be engaged. Give them a book on how a shark really lives (especially during Shark Week!), with photographs, as opposed to a story about a shark and there will probably be increased desire to read. There's a book referenced in a link I'll share with you about children of the wild west. If your child has an interest in that time period and growing up in the era, his/her drive to learn will be self-motivated, and this book is a great resource.<br />
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I believe we will see boys reading more. The books available in classroom libraries will shift from stories to informational texts. Stories are still very relevant, but there will be a better balance. What do you have at home? I've attached a book list generated by Judy Freeman. They are her picks of the top non-fiction books of the century. These are just a sampling of what is available. <br />
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<a href="http://teacher.scholastic.com/reading/bestpractices/nonfiction/topBooksCentury.pdf">Some Great Non-Fiction Picks for Children</a><br />
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Remember, this is a change brought forth by the Common Core. Next time you feel frustrated by it's math methods, take a moment and think about the wonderful shift it's trying to bring about with reading. Then go get a book. <br />
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I've added one last video from author and historian Marc Aronson. Take a moment to watch.<br />
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Keep It Simple...and have patience with the Common Core ♥ D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-23177719813107825452015-02-19T05:21:00.000-08:002015-02-19T05:21:03.704-08:0050 Shades - What's OK there, is not OK here...but that's OK!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I bet you think this post is all about that movie. No, this is a post about raising children. However, when you think about the term raising children...we really are raising/growing adults. We need to make these precious, precious people functioning adults. How can we best do that? In my opinion, it's through the amazing art of discussion and communication.<br />
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I chose '50 shades' because what goes on behind the doors/windows of one's home does not have to be what happens in your home. No matter how much pressure your kids put on you! There was much buzz lately about children in France being allowed to watch <b>50 Shades of Gray (</b>see <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/story/life/movies/2015/02/12/fifty-shades-france/23288005/">USA Today Article</a> ). While US families are criticized for allowing children to be exposed to violent films. Let's take these examples and narrow them down to your children and the discussions you can have with them when they say to you that 'Sarah can do this' or 'Lucy has that", 'Sam can play that', etc...<br />
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This is a great time to open that window and have a discussion! As I have mentioned previously in this blog, sheltering and protecting our kids from too much will not prepare them for difficulties and challenges of adulthood. This does not mean that you should be permissive, but providing some explanations can help. Talk about your reasons. There's increased intrigue with the word no. Assisting with an explanation can alleviate some of the allure and buy some time before they will ask again. My youngest wants a Twitter account. Many of her friends have one. She cannot have one yet. However, instead of 'pulling the shade down' with a NO, we can discuss why she cannot have it yet. I can also tell her, that it's great that her friends have one, without placing any negative judgments on what is allowed at their homes. It's a tricky thing to do, but you must do it.<br />
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Finally, you probably won't make them happy if your stance is not the same as theirs. That's ok. You are the parent. Let them know that in time, they can have whatever privilege it is they are seeking. I always say that's 'the bonus of growing into an adult'. Whether you close the shade or raise it, do so with discussion. It's so important to best prepare them for adulthood.<br />
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Keep It Simple...and talk to your kids! ♥DAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-14571939165499655492015-02-07T05:15:00.000-08:002015-02-07T05:15:01.846-08:00Kids Are Color Blind<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's already February, the month we celebrate hearts, love, and black history. Extra efforts and emphasis are often put in by schools to recognize notable African Americans and their accomplishments during the month. As mom and primary educator, we have to recognize teachable moments, and hope that we handle them in a way that will make the world better. That's a big job. <br />
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I always think back to a February when my (now adult) daughter was 5, and I was watching 'Boston Public'. She came into the room and saw Chi McBride on the television and something about him reminded her of her father. Her dad was a bald, white man, with strong American Indian traits in him. He loved the sun, and was often very tan, or brown skinned. My daughter saw Chi, and said "I'm so thankful we had Martin Luther King, because now daddy can live with us". In that very teachable moment, I had a choice...tell her that 'daddy isn't black so this doesn't apply to our family'. Or say, 'yes, we should be thankful for him because all colors of skin can live together and be a family'. I chose the latter. She needed to know this lesson, first and foremost. At a later time I would explain more about her American Indian and Italian heritage. <br />
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In moments like these, what do you do? Kids are color blind. They are accepting of all. Your experiences are not those of your kids. That's important to remember. Your pre-conceived notions about cultural/racial groups are not those of children. Imagine a world where we did not make a judgment against anyone based upon skin color, ethnic group, or orientation. My goal for my children is to meet someone, get to know them, then decide if their inner character is one that they have room for in their life. Do the value systems align? If not, then find room for a person with shared values. It's February...celebrate love for all.<br />
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I've included a video today. It has some strong comments on the YouTube site, but I liked the thoughts. Watch it...and form your own opinion.<br />
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Keep It Simple...and share love! ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-13284748209841898912015-01-17T05:10:00.002-08:002015-01-17T05:10:26.816-08:00Smashcake!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I get the privilege of attending one of my very favorite little girl's 1st birthday party today. I was looking forward to see her eat and attack her birthday cake, when not too long ago pictures of her floated across my social media and she was doing it...with the caption of 'smashcake'. I saw her dad a few weeks ago and he explained she had already had this experience for her 1st birthday photos. The word 'smashcake' was recurring in our conversation. Then, last week, I was at school and another mom mentioned how she was at a little ones party and talked about how the little one did with his 'smashcake'. What? What' happened...it's not just cake anymore?<br />
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I have 3 close family members who are having babies this spring. My youngest is 12 so it has been a while since I was caring for a baby. Watching them go through the challenges and joys of pregnancy and caring for infants, makes me grateful I was younger when I had my 3. ;) However, it also had me take pause and reflect on the advice I received, and the notions that I believed to be right (whether they were or not), and how those around me reacted to it. <br />
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I remember a conversation that I had almost 20 years ago with a family member. I chose not to breastfeed my children. I simply did not want to. I didn't have any other reason for my choice. This family member was so upset with me, and told me how much damage I was doing to my child. I often wonder if she's aware that he's ok, and doing well in college now. He survived formula. My point is, every new mom, experienced mom, and super mom is entitled to her own belief, value system, and choices. We have to be a system of support for one another that is anchored in respect. It's often kind of interesting to learn from one another. Pregnant women are now cautioned from so many things, that I'm sure I wasn't clued into just 12 years ago. Talking with them and asking questions, rather than passing judgment can be a wonderful conversation. <br />
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And yes, I'm sure you did 'that', and survived. But try not to make any new mom feel bad for not doing what you did. She's got enough on her plate...I'm sure that is something all moms have in common. ;)<br />
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I've attached a funny video from Jimmy Fallon...enjoy!<br />
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Keep It Simple...and enjoy your cake! ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-60415857522544946502015-01-01T09:33:00.001-08:002015-01-01T09:33:16.421-08:00It's a New Year...Allow for Do-Overs and Letting Go<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Happy New Year! If you are following my book updates...there's a new one on that page today!<br />
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I can't believe we are beginning 2015! I was thinking about how we often get caught up in hurt and worry over life's issues that are out of our control, or are simple mistakes. When my children complain about other people in their life that have caused conflict, I tell them that those are the people in most need of our prayers, or positive thoughts. So often we cannot understand the motivation of others, or even ourselves, when we act in an unkind way. Have you considered that awesome concept by children of a 'do-over'? This then needs to be followed with 'letting go'. We can do it, nothing is stopping us (except for pride, or any other human emotion that applies). Here's an example:<br />
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I had a stress-filled day not too long ago. It was full of that Christmas time stress...shopping, parking in a full lot, couldn't find the gift I was searching for, etc... Later that day, I found myself delivering that stress to my children as we prepped for dinner. The kids were unsure, and began to 'walk on eggshells' around me as we got the house cleaned and dinner ready. After a pause, I realized that my stress is not their problem. I told the girls that I simply needed a 'do-over'. I explained that my day was difficult, and it was not their fault. <br />
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This then, needs to be accepted, and letting go has to start immediately. Sometimes the idea of letting go of anger or irritability takes longer. As adults, we can model it for the kids, so that they learn from it. It's ok to have difficult exchanges with loved ones, but it is critically important to share with them a fresh start...immediately. If you hold grudges and carry lingering anger, your children will learn to do this as well.<br />
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Do-Over and Letting Go can be useful in many, if not all situations. From little problems, to those quite large...ask for a do-over, and then let it go. <br />
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It's a new year, start fresh. Enjoy something everyday. Model kindness for your family. Enjoy this video of 2 sweet girls...letting go.<br />
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Keep It Simple...and do anything you need to, over. ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-64079760008107383362014-12-10T02:21:00.001-08:002014-12-10T02:21:46.371-08:00A Few of My Favorite Things...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Christmas is just around the corner. It's a time that is supposed to be cherished and celebrated with family and friends. All too often I find myself in a parking lot, racing with my turn signal on making sure everyone knows that I'm about to park right there...and they can't have that space. I'll see people in line berating a cashier, who has probably just worked a 10 hour shift, for something that is beyond his/her control. And then, I see lines...lines, lines, lines. We are waiting to purchase, to see Santa, or to visit some spectacular holiday event. All of these are truly a test of our patience. <br />
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So, what are some of my joys during this mad rush? I'd like to share them with you, and hope that you can take a moment to reflect on and add a simple activity to your family that slows it all down, and keeps peace, and joy in the season.<br />
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1. <b>The Handprint Tree Skirt</b> - A favorite for my kids. Each year we used our plain tree skirt, and painted the kids hands, and slapped them on the skirt (in one of the panels). At the bottom we put the year. You need to use an appropriate paint for fabric. I also assigned each of my 3 kids their own color so they would know which prints were theirs. We have filled two skirts over the years, and they look great...it's a wonderful tradition!<br />
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2. <b> Cookie Making</b> - I'm sure many of you do this. Keep doing it with the kids and let them help and make a mess. But also, make sure they help you with the clean-up. This should be a start to finish project that the whole family can enjoy. Set reasonable limits - too many cookies, and you'll lose your cooks!<br />
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3. <b>The Holiday Photo With Santa</b> - it does not have to be perfect! The one above is my favorite! I love that Santa is smiling through while my little one is screaming for me. It captures that year for her. Don't stress about the photo, it'll be perfect simply because your children are in it.<br />
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These are 3 holiday moments that I cherish. What are yours? Merry Christmas!<br />
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Keep it simple...and full of peace and joy! ♥DAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-82105891571933590922014-11-21T13:06:00.002-08:002014-11-21T13:06:35.758-08:00Don't Give Up...and Happy Thanksgiving!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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It's the season of giving. It's a time to be thankful. For some reason, this year I have taken a step back and evaluated those thoughts. Why do we put so much pressure on being thankful and giving during this commercialized, 8-week season of the year? This should be a focus all the time. Don't get me wrong, I love the holidays, and the way we get to transform our homes into a decorated place of celebration and family gathering. I simply struggle with focusing on being 'thankful and giving' in November and December. These are virtues that should be stressed and encouraged year round.<br />
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It's very possible that my age has something to do with my personal feelings, or even the recent events experienced by my family. However, families and friends should be giving thanks to one another as often as possible. Humans should be giving of one another in a thoughtful way, as best they can...without any judgment or expectation of assistance in return. I recently had a conversation with someone who said she 'used to help others, but they don't help her anymore', so she stopped. The giving spirit requires you to dig deep, and expect nothing in return. That is hard. It also requires you to withhold judgment from those who simply cannot give in ways that you may choose to.<br />
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I also think that it's ok to give to yourself. If you don't, you just might break. Give yourself time. Give yourself peace. Remove yourself from the demands and chaos in your life that are not healthy... and heal. If you do that, you are giving the gift of a healthy 'you' to your family. <br />
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Don't wait for November. Get crazy and give in March too! Be thankful in June! Spread it out. It will make for an amazing year!<br />
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Happy Thanksgiving to all...I am thankful to those of you who are reading. I am grateful to my family and friends and feel so blessed today, and all other days of the year (even the difficult days).<br />
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Enjoy the turkey showdown video below...it's just for fun!<br />
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Keep It Simple...and give thanks! ♥D<br />
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Note - For those of you following my book progress, there's an update on that page! Check it out :)<br />
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As the school year rolls on, I assume parents are experiencing the joys and frustrations of schoolwork, extra-curriculars, and simply spending some time together at home. In addition, we now have the added family member who I lovingly call 'Screen'. He didn't come home from the hospital, but nonetheless, he did take a good amount from your wallet. Screen is usually present in all rooms of the house. He can sit on a desk, on your lap, and may even be an appendage on your body (usually connected to the hand). Sometimes, Screen talks back to you. Has that happened? You think you are home with just your family (maybe you are even wearing your pajamas) and Screen has a person on it who suddenly says, "Hi Ms. Jayson, how are you"? That is Skyping Screen. I don't always love it when he is present. But my children do.<br />
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Screen can take over. Do you spend more time with Screen than with your kids? Track it. Record the amount of time you are actually focused on your children WITHOUT Screen present. Screen has a very tricky way of invading all of our spaces. Technology is important and critical for our ever changing society. We also need to ensure that our children are ready for future, but we need to prepare them to be good, virtuous human beings. That does not come from a screen. This comes from direct, uninterrupted interaction with others.<br />
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Time spent with children, modeling for them kindness, generosity, patience and empathy for others is an invaluable lesson. We live in a society that often demonstrates a disregard for the human spirit and humanity. Wouldn't it be amazing if the news was filled with stories of acts of kindness brought forth by our children? Play with your children, model for them what to do when things do not go their way. Show them how to solve a problem with words (as opposed to some ways they will learn from Screen). Show them how to disregard Screen and make them feel more important than Screen (demonstrates focus, non-distraction). <br />
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Finally, I know Screen has moved in permanently. I love Screen, too. But let's simply find a balance. An hour with Screen, an hour outdoors-playing. Another hour with Screen, and hour eating dinner together-NO Screen (he can eat later). You can do it, so can the kids. Enjoy the video below...I love the little baby who treats the magazine like an iPad. ;)<br />
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Keep it simple...and balanced. ♥D<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-58066795474904235372014-10-25T06:05:00.001-07:002014-10-25T06:05:36.981-07:00Social NEED-ia<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I wake up to my alarm and turn it off. For the past several years now, my routine is to grab my phone first thing and check in. I have to check my 2 email accounts, text messages, Facebook, Instgram, and Twitter feeds. Then, I have to double check those feeds for my 3 children (responsible/stalker parenting). Like most humans in the morning, I have to use the facilities, but this phone situation, delays that by about 10-15 minutes now. Oh, the days of long ago when I just hit the alarm and got out of bed. I have a hunch that 75% of you can relate to this.<br />
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Why is this a topic today? Because this is a very relevant form of communication for many, many people. Adult and children are using social media as a way of communicating thoughts and feelings. Are you paying attention? I was so relieved this week when a comment was made to me about one of my children from a friend. He knew about my daughter because, as a responsible parent, he checks his child's media accounts and our children are friends. We talked about the time it takes to sit and keep up with not only our own social media, but our children's too. However, the invested time is worth it. <br />
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Children feel validated with the number of 'likes' they get. Children feel validated with the number of 'friends' they get. This is when I feel it switches from media to need-ia. There's a competition to see who likes a post, a photo, a comment. Sense of worth rises through this. But, it shouldn't. Those accounts, and 'friends' need to be cleaned out. This is when parenting, and verbal discussions about loving yourself, and feeling validation through good works come in. <br />
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Have that real talk about friends...how many do you, as an adult, have in real life that matter most? Have a talk about internet behaviors. I found a great video to share with you today, and hope you share it with your children. It's light-hearted, and covers some aspects of internet behaviors. Enjoy it...and enjoy the media, just don't need it.<br />
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Keep it simple...and lightly social. ♥D<br />
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School can be a wonderful place, full of friends, academic successes, and fun! It can also be a place where some children experience their most memorable difficulties and challenges. They spend 13+ years in required attendance whether they are having a good or bad day. This is very similar to adult life. What do your children know about reacting to others, and their feelings? Have you discussed the term empathy? <br />
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As daily academic and recreational pressures, as well as the constant influx of technology and media continue to come into their lives, kids tend to be overwhelmingly stimulated and far less relaxed. This can lead to emotional feelings that are hard to understand, relay, and communicate in socially acceptable ways. Teaching children what it means to show understanding, and kindness toward one another at young ages is critical to creating a caring, kind, and accepting community. <b><i>Empathy can be defined as being aware of and sharing another person's feelings, experiences, and emotions.</i></b><br />
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Sometimes I see students, and parents, wanting to isolate and exclude a child who is having a difficult time expressing his/her emotions in acceptable ways. However, when I see students who acknowledge and share another's feelings, as pictured above, healing begins immediately. With a cooperative learning environment, mixed with empathetic classmates and understanding adults, transformations in behavior can occur with very positive outcomes for all.<br />
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<b>Empathy is</b>: seeing with the eyes of another<br />
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Please watch the video below with your children...empathy is key. Kids need to be kind to one another and work on understanding and accepting one another. It's a simple way for them to begin to grasp the concept, and you, as parent, can take it from there.<br />
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School has (or will be) starting. Your child will simply not be happy every single moment of every single day at school. Mrs. Smith will have treated him unfairly. Mr. Jones will have singled her (and ONLY her) out for absolutely NO reason at all. Michael will have pushed him down on the playground and no one did anything about it, even when he told a grown-up. And, one of the worst...all of the girls sat together at lunch and excluded your daughter. She sat alone. I am not being sarcastic, exclusion is one of the worst feelings a child can experience. As the year goes on, I'll try and tackle some of these issues individually, but for today I'd like to discuss your immediate reaction, as a parent, to the statements (or those similar) made above.<br />
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1. You know your child. He/she's looking for some empathy. Go ahead and give it. Listen. Just listen, with out a reaction. I often tell people to 'keep your face'. Be mindful of your facial expression. Don't lose it, even if you want to. Show empathy, but try real hard not to let the anger flow through or deep sadness for the situation they are describing. <br />
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2. Then question. You really are only getting 1 version of the truth. What would have motivated your child's offender to do what he/she did? Most people are generally good people. I'd like to say that again. Most people are generally good. We have to work on believing that. We use a court system that prescribes to innocent until proven guilty. Wouldn't it be great if we believed that most people are here for good, rather than here to harm?<br />
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3. Please do not react negatively. Use a<b> language filter</b>. Once your child sees that you've lost control and are in an negative emotional reaction, they've 'got you'. It's possible you are done being reasonable. It will be difficult for you to listen to the teacher's version of what happened. Keep your mind open, and you thoughts inside.<br />
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4. Wait 24 hours. As the evening progresses at home and your child sees your non-reaction, maybe more of the truth will come out. Maybe not. In the morning, when all are calm, make an appointment with the appropriate school personnel to discuss what is happening with an open mind. I always recommend having your child present at these conferences (especially if they are age 8+). They can be accountable and can hold others accountable for their actions.<br />
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So, go ahead and have a flurry of thoughts in your head! Just keep them from coming out in front of your child. Children are so smart. You made them that way!<br />
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Keep it simple...calm, and cool! ♥DAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-69663402735219871402014-08-20T19:14:00.003-07:002014-08-20T19:19:58.851-07:00Finding Your Goulash<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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My two older children begin college this Monday. My son is actually leaving. It's his second year, and he will be living 4 hours away from home. I remember last year struggling with his departure and loving his return trips home. I couldn't wait for him to come home to visit. I fussed over the house, and wanted it clean and in great shape. Then came the moment when I was preparing his 'favorite meal'. His whole life I've been a full-time working mom (a school administrator), and mother of three...taking the kids to their many, many after school activities. We often ate on the run, and not always together. So I'm thinking about that special meal to prepare for his return. I have no idea what to make him. I call him and ask what he wants. "I don't care, ma...whatever you feel like making is good for me. Just do goulash". Then I realize, I don't cook. I make about 3 things...weekly (and probably weakly!). He has no 'favorite meal' that I can make for him to return home to eat. I failed! I'm devastated. I love my mother's southern fried chicken and okra, and her biscuits and gravy. I need him to love something of mine. Right? Or do I? <br />
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It took the year for me to realize that no, I don't. He needs me to be me. His mom that he knows is here always, loving him the way that I have for 19 years. With Stouffers French Bread pizzas always on hand in that freezer waiting for him. He needs his home that is conveniently located right around the corner from Tim Hortons and McDonalds and Taco Bell for all of the meals required. And he will enjoy that sometimes I will pull off an amazing (yes, somewhat amazing) meal out of my oven once in a blue moon with the help of Allrecipes.com. I can cook, if I have the time. But loving my kids had me getting them where they needed to be for 18 years and attending those events at dinner time. Our cars looked and smelled like a dinner table. What do we all enjoy? My goulash. It's simple, but yummy. Everyone has their own version of goulash. Find your family's...and make it special. Eat that at the table every now and then. They'll come home from college wanting that and it will be great! ;)<br />
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Keep it simple...love your kids, and be proud of the way you love them! ♥DAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14959630881579680101noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4468050000777710783.post-50172001763503246912014-08-11T22:20:00.000-07:002014-08-11T22:20:08.950-07:00Discussing Death<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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As a parent, I know that I would do anything to protect my children from hurt. I can't. We all get hurt. My own children have experienced loss (way too much for their young ages), but with each loved one lost, I have learned more about the questions they have. Guess what? I don't have all of the answers. If I wasn't feeling bad enough about the inability to protect them from it, at least I should be able to provide the answers to their questions. Right? Today I give all parents permission to relieve yourself from this pressure. You are probably grieving, too. Just do your best. I'm going to share a few things I have learned over time, and then offer some books to assist with this challenging topic.<div>
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1. On cremation..."How did grandpa get so small? When I die won't I still be big?" - I honestly googled to "how to explain cremation to young children". Think about your words/language you choose prior to responding. You do not want to make this scarier than it already is.</div>
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2. On disease and/or chronic illness..."Will I get that too?" or you may see worries from children that this will happen to one of their parents. Depending on the age of the child, you can explain a little about genetics. But most importantly, take the opportunity to focus on a healthy lifestyle, regular check-ups, and caring for a loved one. Hopefully they have experienced the power of empathy. During illness families come together and help their loved one. I don't think you need to 'hide' this from children...let them participate in caring for a loved one. Our children need to be empathetic.</div>
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<li><i><b>Someone I Loved Died</b></i> - by Christine Harder Tangvald</li>
<li><b><i>The Invisible String</i></b> - by Patrice Karst</li>
<li><b><i>Samantha Jane's Missing Smile</i></b> - by Julie Kaplow & Donna Pincus</li>
<li><b><i>The Next Place</i></b> - by Warren Hanson</li>
<li><b><i>Pancakes With Papa</i></b> - coming soon! by Dena Albergo Jayson</li>
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Wow. Where did our summer go? Working at a school, I've seen many teachers coming in and preparing their classrooms for Michigan's after Labor Day start. Whenever your start date (some of you may have already started), how is the stress management for you and your kids? As I type today, the sun is shining, and it's looking to be a beautiful day today. What are your plans with the children? I hope they are to keep enjoying summer! It's not over yet!<br />
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Every store where school supplies are sold will lead you to believe you are starting back tomorrow. You probably don't. How can you best manage the days leading to the first day of school? Here's what I'd do...<br />
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1. Take advantage of beautiful weather. Go do something outside and allow the kids to play.<br />
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2. Take advantage of the rainy/poor weather...that's a perfect day to go school shopping. <br />
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3. Reduce stress with some financial planning. Yes, your children will want to go back to school with some new clothes and spectacular supplies, but I'd venture to guess you do not need an entire new wardrobe. You may even have some of last year's supplies. Keep it simple, and check out what they already have and can continue to wear/use. Overindulgence is not a good thing.<br />
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4. Have them use these days to assist the family, and 'earn' some of those extra items on their back to school list.<br />
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5. When shopping for supplies, do not panic if you can't find an item. You can wait until the first school day and communicate with your child's teacher a difficulty. Believe it or not, they will not use all of the supplies on the very first day.<br />
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6. Continue to read (that should be everyone's summer homework), and just enjoy the last few days.<br />
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The 'job' of a parent is to prepare children for the adult world, and to make sure they can manage on their own. I'm sure we'd like to hold that off as long as we possibly can. As life happens we find that we simply cannot protect them from some of the harsh realities that come their way. Many times a tragedy will strike, a chronic illness with affect a family, or a sudden change in their lifestyle occurs and the world gets turned upside down. What can a parent do to help? Here is what I suggest:<br />
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1. Allow each child to express themselves as they need. There should be no judgement. Anger is ok. Laughter is ok. Sadness is ok. No emotion is ok. Everything is ok.<br />
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2. Do things together as a family. Even if it is simply staying home. Play games. Watch TV. Eat meals. Be sure that you are together. Do they need time with their friends? Let them have that time...but be sure they return home after a short visit.<br />
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3. Be truthful about your circumstances. Be mindful of their age, and what they can handle when sharing information, but kids will listen, be concerned, and will overhear conversations. They will know something is wrong. Let them in, and then reassure them that all will be alright. Knowing that as a family, you will get through, will help them cope. They need to be able to trust you, so I do not recommend lying to them.<br />
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4. Absolutely seek the guidance of a professional (a psychologist/medical professional who works with children and young adults) promptly. For the kids, and for yourself. This can be short or a long term solution. You can work with this professional to decide, but this will be critical.<br />
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If this post is one that is necessary for your family, I wish you peace. I trust you will get it soon.<br />
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